Scientist Neil deGrasse Tyson speaks in this video about how labels can be used against people to claim you are something based upon a narrow definition.
This is something Genderqueer Australia works with people to understand, that our definitions of ourselves are extremely narrow, and their use reduces us to these labels. So when we say we are a husband, mother, white, black, homosexual, transgender or genderqueer, we are giving someone else the ammunition to define us as exactly that label and no more.
As human beings we have limitless potential to be something much better: We can be ourselves.
This article goes into brief detail about the grieving process for a relationship affected by one partner being transgendered.
The process of adjustment for the partners of someone who is gender-questioning, genderqueer or transgender can be a difficult road, as difficult as the coming out process is for the sex and gender diverse.
The Gender Animatic video below does a great job of addressing the issues that genderqueer people face as people, in the gender binary community and sometimes even in the queer community with gender policing.
Sometimes you just have to create your own space to exist.